Beyond Betrayal – Dr. Debi Silber
Course Description
Salepage : Beyond Betrayal – Dr. Debi Silber
Delivery : Online With Any Device
What You’ll Learn Over the Next Seven Weeks
Dr. Debi will lead you through the core tools you’ll need to go over betrayal and into a more empowered, more self-assured self during this 7-week transformative intensive.
Understanding Betrayal and Shattered Trust: An Overview, Module 1 (April 13)
The effects of betrayal affect your body, mind, and emotions. It’s only normal to reach for anything or anybody you believe would make you feel better after being let down by the one or persons you trusted the most. You might also choose to do nothing and wait for the injury to heal on its own.
You run the danger of continuing to feel depressed, trapped, or ill if you don’t properly recover from this particular form of trauma. Your feeling of self-worth, belonging, and deservingness are all shaken by betrayal. It causes feelings of abandonment and rejection.
You must mend betrayal on all levels because it has an impact on you on all levels.
You’ll follow this session’s established and well-defined road map to complete betrayal recovery.
You’ll discover in this module:
Understand the numerous sorts of betrayal (family member, partner, friend, coworker, self, etc.), what betrayal is and does, and why broken trust hurts so intensely.
Learn how being betrayed makes you doubt everything and everyone, and how what you’re going through is completely normal.
Examine the effects of an unhealed betrayal on your relationships, career, and health.
Think about how and where your trust was first betrayed (it may not be where you think)
Examine how the betrayal shaped your current ideas and whether they are causing you to feel depressed, trapped, or ill.
Module 2: Three Revolutionary Findings That Reframe Our Understanding of Betrayal (April 20)
In her PhD thesis, Dr. Debi discovered three game-changing concepts: Post Betrayal Transformation, Post Betrayal Syndrome, and the Five Stages From Betrayal to Breakthrough. In this talk, she will explain how you may use these concepts to your advantage. Her research reassuringly supports the predictability of recovery, the complete physical, mental, and emotional toll of betrayal, and how betrayal is a unique sort of trauma requiring a unique healing strategy.
You’ll investigate how an unhealed betrayal may be influencing your health, job, and relationships via these specific lenses, and you’ll learn what to do about it.
You’ll discover in this module:
Confirm that this isn’t only in your head: The process of recovering after betrayal, a unique kind of trauma, is today known as post-betrayal transformation.
Examine your physical and mental/emotional well-being in comparison to the group of symptoms associated with betrayal that have come to be recognized as Post Betrayal Syndrome.
Accept that in order to properly recover, you must go through the tried-and-true and predictable steps, lest you remain trapped for years, decades, or even a lifetime. From betrayal to breakthrough in 5 Stages
Take a quiz to determine whether signs of betrayal may still be present in you, even if they occurred decades ago.
Establish which of the five stages—from betrayal to breakthrough—you are now in and learn how to advance slowly, methodically, and cautiously.
Prioritizing Your Needs: Emotional and Spiritual Over Physical and Mental is the first stage of Module 3: (April 27)
Think of the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual legs as the four corners of a table. The emotional and spiritual legs are frequently neglected in favor of the physical and mental ones. By doing this, you become extremely adept at thinking and doing (using your head), but less proficient at putting feelings and being first (tuning in to your heart).
It’s simple to see how the table topples with only two legs supported, which is exactly what might happen if you’ve been betrayed. Stability comes from balancing the four.
You’ll discover in this module:
To determine whether you are numbing, ignoring, or diverting yourself in a way that prevents you from taking care of yourself or others or from pursuing your greater purpose, ask yourself the following four questions.
Examine some of the most prevalent causes for which you could engage in the aforementioned actions.
Learn how the mind takes an idea and, over time, converts it into a belief, leading to subconscious programming that’s in charge of your actions, behaviors, and habits. Make a pie chart of all the areas (job, kids, health, relationships, self, etc.) on which you concentrate during the day.
Use a clever thinking trick to extract new beliefs from these ingrained ones.
Breakdown of the Body, Mind, and Worldview in Module 4: Stage 2 (May 4)
Discovery Day, sometimes known as “D-Day,” is the day you receive the news that will permanently alter your way of life. Your body, mind, and emotions are all utterly shocked by the treachery. The shock activates your stress reaction physically. Mentally, it’s impossible for you to comprehend what just occurred. Your point of view collapses. At this point, you’re afraid, anxious, disoriented, and desperate to feel better.
It’s time to put D-Day behind us. Making a self-care plan that will calm and support you while preparing you for long-term recovery will be the main topic of today’s lesson.
You’ll discover in this module:
Make an effort to understand what transpires during this phase and what you can do to address the waves of sorrow, despair, anger, and uncertainty.
Learn about the most typical signs that follow a betrayal and how, if left uncontrolled, they can result in illness and disease.
Learn how the proper assistance may help you go through this stage and the next, while the incorrect sort can hinder you.
Consider how typical it is to fight and endure pain in quiet as you defend the betrayer or attempt to deal with your guilt and humiliation.
Be warned of disguising physical symptoms rather than treating the underlying problem, which is analogous to pasting a sticker over a car’s check-engine light.
Module 5: Stage 3: Emergence of Survival Instincts (May 11)
You’re left reeling in the wake of betrayal, wondering how you’re going to make it through. What should I do? Who can I rely on? In Stage Three, you come up with some solutions and start to feel considerably better.
Because of this, Stage Three may be the most difficult to exit. You think, “Whew, I’m OK!” since surviving feels so much better than the shock and agony from which you just escaped.
Because you don’t know that Stages Four and Five are alternatives, you resign yourself to believing that things are “as good as they’re going to get” and that you should get used to them. When you believe it, a couple things take place:
You become accustomed to a variety of minor advantages from being there, including the opportunity to be correct. Someone is to blame—you. it’s Nice.
Next, since you feel unlovable, worthless, undeserving, and inferior, the same pulls to you. If those are your views, your mind will seek facts to support them because it wants to be proven correct. This keeps you anchored in Stage Three if you weren’t already there.
You search for ways to numb, ignore, and distract yourself from the feelings since you are not happy at this stage and are unsure of how to make the pain go away, whether it be via food, drugs, alcohol, job, TV, being busy, pleasing other people, or perfectionism. While engaging in these “methods of mass distraction” may hold the sensations at away, they don’t help you overcome your discomfort; instead, you’re just attempting to avoid it.
You’ll discover in this module:
Learn how to become unstuck, why things could get worse before they get better, and what it looks like to do so. Recognize the advantages of staying stuck and how they might be alluring despite your desire to go forward.
Consider adopting a Hard Now, Easy Later strategy that pays off in the long term rather than the frequently unconscious choice to go with Easy Now, Hard Later. Validate your anger, grief, pity, and compassion as progressive emotions that reflect your passage from one stage to the next.
Get the skills, resources, and tactics you need to leave this enticing stage.
Module 6: Finding and Adapting to a New Normal, Stage Four (May 18)
This week, you’ll look at the point at which you realize, accept, and acknowledge the loss of your former normal.
We’ll talk about how, even if the betrayal can’t be undone, you have influence over how you handle it.
Self’ll get assistance in making a new place that is honorable and fitting for the new you that is now forming.
You’ll discover in this module:
As you transition from Stages Three to Four, it’s usual to review some connections to see whether you’ve outgrown them. You should also lament the loss of such ties.
Learn how spirituality, faith, or religion contribute significantly to ongoing healing and change and may assist to reestablish trust as you become ready to actively seek out growth-minded soul fighters with whom to grow.
Write the crucial next chapter of the already existing narrative of your life as a logical new story.
To determine if it is safe and in your best interest to heal and rebuild with the person who injured you, look through the window of willingness.
Stage Five: Module 7: Healing, Rebirth, and a New Worldview (May 25)
As a result, the body begins to mend. You give yourself and your well-being first priority. Your mental state also starts to improve. Based on what you can now plainly see, you are establishing new guidelines and limitations.
As you reflect on all you’ve experienced and the journey you’ve taken up to this point, you’ve also developed a new viewpoint. You can clearly observe your progress. You’ve decided to get better. Does it not feel wonderful?
You’ll discover in this module:
Imagine the version of yourself that is whole, healed, strong, and confident; one who feels secure and is able to love.
Review the steps, routines, and behaviors required to achieve this version of yourself, then make a personalized plan to get there as soon as possible.
Discussing the effects of holding onto anger on the body, mind, and heart might help you understand how forgiveness can hasten your healing.
Using a 4-step procedure, restore broken trust from the ground up.
Write a new script about how you want to be treated and develop a new connection with yourself.
The Bonus Collection: Beyond Betrayal
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